After The Festive Fun

So happy new year we have started but have we at the end of that festive period many people have the stress of paying their cards and Bill’s which have been left because they more than often want to buy the best and this may well put many people and families in debt.

There quite a few ways we can avoid putting ourselves in a situation where we are all stressed out and panicking where the money is going to come from we can use many different ways to help pay the cards and debt off.

Underneath the panick stricken person there is often a person who will hide instead of talking which makes things a lot harder to sort out usually will put a smile on their face and more than often will put a strong front on.

Not dealing with problems does not help they do not go away a lot of people are so scared to deal with them thinking that they will be charged higher than needed also that they cannot live but the people who they owe money too often will accept a lower rate so try to avoid the overpayment of festive buy presents through the year.

There are places that will help you get the debt cleared without being skint and this will release the stress factor and the hassles that can be caused by someone who has debt on their heads.

There are also quite a few ways that you can build up an account over the year so that you can have enough cash for the Christmas it is the shops that no one really thinks of there are also small banks that do the same as well, these shops and banks will help with saving for the Christmas period and the then you can take the money when you need to buy the presents or food.

Bill’s are really important and more than often over a period where people need cash and don’t want loans they will put a hold on their Bill’s which puts them behind and quite often get into debt which in this day and age not hard to do.

Although there are places that can and will help people that are in debt because they have spent on Christmas most people want their families to have the best or to see them happy but in the end, we have to sort these bills and debts out.

If the bills are not sorted more than often they will be chased and the owner of the debt will be chased for it which more than often scares the client into not paying it even more.

Things that can happen that can cause a lot of damage are

Feeling of anxiety

Depression

Sometimes suicidal

Quite a few times people will relieve their stress through drinking or overeating

There are different ways to help people who get into a bad situation offering a small payment if it is affordable,

Depression can do a lot of damage to a person if it is not recognised can be quite disruptive in a lot of ways

Lack of confidence

Sleeping

Hearing things

Not eating

These are just a few things that are around that can really do a lot of damage to a person who is suffering from depression.

A client can visit the doctor and quite often the doctor will send a request for the client to see a psychologist but this may also take a long time as there are often quite a few people in the front of the queue, there is of course where the nearest psychologist may be located.

Of course, there is the private psychologist who may charge pretty much the same as the one who works through the  NHS, the prices often differ depending on the experience, A new psychologist will know the same as the longer working psychologist but the experience is far less also the price would be as well.

 

The first step to getting help is admitting that there is something wrong and seeking help to guide you in the right direction.

However there are a lot of ways when you are not getting help as well, first of all, you are not alone with this you are one in a million people just like you and a lot of people with depression are a counselor or have been in counseling so the qualified counselors usually have the experience first hand at helping people who are suffering.

There are many ways to help

The counselor will offer a period of help and they will also offer an open door so that the client knows they can return to continue if they need too.

The first meeting is the most awkward for the client as it will be an introduction and the start of trust-building.

The counselor will offer the client to take home thoughts of things to do which means maybe writing the daily tasks down.

Writing the positives and the negatives and keeping a list of these things and as the sessions continue turning the negatives around.

Writing a diary on the day to day tasks

Setting the day out getting up at a certain time

Going to the gym and getting motivated

Making plans going  ahead

There are many different forms of depression and they can be brought on by many things:

1/  Abuse mentally put down

2/  Abuse during the marriage

3/  Abuse during childhood

So many different forms of abuse and many different reasons why people suffer in adulthood

Sexual abuse can ruin a lot of people’s lives, can also lead to homes splitting up broken families and children even going into care.

The idea of abuse in any form can turn anyone’s stomach especially if it is family is heartbreaking.

Drinking alcohol is a big reason why people will go to a counselor but again there is always a reason why a person will start drinking

Family breakup

Death

Lost job

Lack of finances

Homelessness

One drink feels good gets rid of the bad feeling so the next drink feels even better but this does not cure the problem it makes it worse because you still have to deal with it

You can’t just stop drinking it is a controlling factor as it is an illness so it should be dealt with by the right counselors and possible rehab for some clients that really feel they can’t do this while living alone or with family.

So there are ways to help yourself and others can help you can be guided by a counselor so that you don’t feel totally on your own.

You can help yourself  writing the diary and setting a clock on a regular time for the morning

You can also drink a soft drink such as milk or hot chocolate.

Don’t play video games on a computer or mobile before you go to bed

 

Just  few ways i can help anyone

 

 

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Comments

  1. Rhain says:

    This is such a prevalent occurrence in our society today. Too often, many people give in to the pressure of having to empty their bank accounts for the festive season. Some even go as far as taking loans. Like you mentioned, I think it is a better idea  to put away some money at regular intervals for the purpose of festive seasons. Seeing that these pressures more often than not, leads to feelings of depression, I think it needs urgent attention. I have to ask though, do you know of any other reliable method of dealing with this kind of depression other than seeing a counselor face to face?

    1. Hi Rhain
      Thank you for your comment working with friends that are aware of the way they can help someone really can help but it really is better if the person can either see or get help from someone with the knowledge of the help required it is hard to determine the depression and why it occurs.
      You don’t have to see a counselor face to face there are other ways to talk with them.
      Thank you again
      Tracey

  2. MrBiizy says:

    Oh ma’am, you hit the nail right in the head. I was listening to an audio some few hours ago titled Manhood by Dr Myles Munroe. While reading through this post, I was of most of the things he talked about in that audio. As men, we usually feel depressed when we cannot handle stuffs especially as a result of insufficient funds. Negative thoughts, hard drugs and alcohol is not the way out, it only sustain depression. The best way out is to admit we need help, seek help and solutions to our problems and work towards how we can solve our problems.

    Thank you for sharing.

    Warm regards!

    1. admin says:

      Hi 

      Thank you for taking the time for reading my post i have such a strong feeling about this and how it is such a problem for many people there is more than the drugs that take a man or boy to depression self-harm and or being homeless it is not a problem that can be solved by just talking it is a process that needs attention around the world.

      As you have said the first thing for a man is admitting there is a problem that they need help with.

      Tracey

      1. MrBiizy says:

        You have spoken really well Tracey.

        But men these days find it difficult to admit they need help. They think they know it all. That’s where their problems initially started from.

        1. Hi
          it is very hard for a guy to admit anything like that or any sort of abuse

  3. Robert says:

    I was just having a discussion with a friend that is going through a tough time and is borderline depressed. He owes a few thousand dollars to the IRS. He lives paycheck to paycheck and doesn’t make enough to pay it all back anytime soon. Stress and depression is a big problem in society today and sometimes the treatments seem to not work.

    Obviously everyone is different and a treatment that works for one person may not work for the other. however the information you shared here is very helpful. I know personally for me and pretty much all of my family we realize how stressful the holidays can be when it comes to money issues. We avoid that by not buying gifts for everyone.

    For years we used to do a Pollyanna Gift Exchange where we pick the names of a family member out of a jar and then we buy gifts only for the person whose name we picked. This saved us a lot of money! Now we do not buy any gifts but instead pool our money and go on a Christmas family vacation. Changing the meaning of Christmas helps much.

    Though there changes we can make and other things we can do to help moderate the levels of emotional stress and depression, there will be those times when we will have to seek help. The first step to getting well is to admit you have a problem and then you go and get help. In my opinion this cannot be forced. The person must want it so.

    1. admin says:

      Hi Robert 

      I totally agree with what you say what is good for one may not work on another but there are ways to help people if they really want to be helped.

      But everyone recovers in different ways and only if  they really want to also depending on the depth of trauma, they do say it is better to speak with someone outside of the family a person who is not connected.

  4. Robert says:

    I was just having a discussion with a friend that is going through a tough time and is borderline depressed. He owes a few thousand dollars to the IRS. He lives paycheck to paycheck and doesn’t make enough to pay it all back anytime soon. Stress and depression is a big problem in society today and sometimes the treatments seem to not work.

    Obviously everyone is different and a treatment that works for one person may not work for the other. however the information you shared here is very helpful. I know personally for me and pretty much all of my family we realize how stressful the holidays can be when it comes to money issues. We avoid that by not buying gifts for everyone.

    For years we used to do a Pollyanna Gift Exchange where we pick the names of a family member out of a jar and then we buy gifts only for the person whose name we picked. This saved us a lot of money! Now we do not buy any gifts but instead pool our money and go on a Christmas family vacation. Changing the meaning of Christmas helps much.

    Though there changes we can make and other things we can do to help moderate the levels of emotional stress and depression, there will be those times when we will have to seek help. The first step to getting well is to admit you have a problem and then you go and get help. In my opinion this cannot be forced. The person must want it so.

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