So how can anyone tell if they know someone is going through something that they are not talking about.
There are a few ways that a person may of changed and sometimes this may be visible or the person may hide that way they are actually feeling or they may not be aware that they are actually showing signs of some sort of depression, which can really come out in many different ways.
I can help clients to recover or at least guide them through this bit by bit.
There are quite a few ways i can help guide a client through their pain and the problems that they are having to deal with.
There are a few ways that things or issues can be talked through with client’s to help them through their problems without medicine to start off with.
In the beginning of when first meeting a client there will be a list of things that are required depending on what the problems are and how deep the problem really is.
The initial meeting between the client and the counselor.
Setting meeting days and times, the first meeting it is very important to allow two hours as this could be very upsetting also very hard for the clients to speak.
The first conversation should be getting to know each other and what is ahead and maybe a small discussion about the problems.
Setting a time scale for the client asking them when they would like to be finished
Always leaving the option for the client to return if they need to explain that when they leave they can return if they need to speak with a counselor at all.
One of the most important things is that there is a form of homework set for the client to help them see their own progress.
The homework may be based on the client’s sleep pattern to see how the client sleeps what they and how they settle at night what helps them rest at night.
There will be self challenges and a list of things that are small but enough to help acknowledge some things that may start a panic attack or could bring back memories that the client may need to talk about.
The best way is to talk to start off with and explain to the client what it is available to help them with and how we would go about putting together the healing process.
There is a daily diary that the client can write in and give a check on it every few hours, also the diary is important so that the client can view what they have said in writing they can also see their own progress.
Homework is set for the client so that they can understand themselves and follow what has been set for them this also helps the counselor to understand more about what has happened and why the client is the way they are at the time.
Writing down is very important as the counselor can see where the stress and fear start to show which is where they can then set a routine for the client to follow and set the times in their own diaries for the client tow rite and see what happens and watch out for the changes throughout the weeks.
The next challenge would be not to play games late at night as this will make the brain work overtime and the client may not be able to relax before bed.
Of course, there are other things to do like artwork this is a great form of relaxation also helps with depression, art therapy clears the mind and helps concentration with other things.
Also, i would advise that the client does not drink coffee or tea before going to bed as these are the drinks that stimulate the brain as the games do as well and it is important to keep the mind clear at night.
If watching the television at night it is good to watch something that has humor a comedy something that will keep you relaxed and not stress the mind so much.
Any sort of abuse victimization lowers the confidence level and often make a lot of people male or female feel that they are not worthy of anything this is because of the person or people that have caused the abuse the fear can take forever but things do ease even if the client cant forget.
Writing is such a good way of getting your feelings out and making them easier to deal with in other ways, this is where you become a survivor and not a victim.
There are many reasons a person needs to have counseled some of the reasons:
PTSD/Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
This could be some soldiers returning from war or working in the fields
PND Postnatal Depression
This is after the birth of a baby the birth could have been easy but a hard time for new mums to come to terms with.
This can be brought on by many traumas in life, not just a night out it is a build-up of many things.
This can mean be so many different things
Grooming means that someone is or has been training young children or teens to do something that is not right
Forced marriage is a big problem and even in this day and age women or even very young girls are being sold from their own families in marriage to total strangers, they endure physical and mental also rape this can go on for many years and there are so many stories of young girls that have been married at the age of twelve years old and they have been repeatedly raped maybe even had a baby.
Sometimes these young girls manage to escape but they have to go in hiding as well as in some cases they fear for their lives a lot of these girls flee their countries for safety.
This is a major problem as it still goes on in this day and age there are many deaths because of this.
Any type of abuse should be stopped but no one knows when it is happening apart from the person it is happening too and they more than often get blackmailed by the abuser never tell it will be your fault there is no actual way to stop the abusers doing these things.
There are many counseling places to attend but they cost even if you attend the doctors and this can really e a lot of charging depending on how many sessions the client needs.
You can get help as well from the doctor they will advise on which medication is needed if the client, sometimes clients prefer to take the route of being counseled as there are no drugs involved, this is not a walk in the park it is trying to heal clients who have been through trauma.
This is an outline of some guidelines and help that can be accessed through the doctor or privately.
I am very open when a payment scheme is put in place as i don’t think that some amounts that get charged are the right way about taking so much money from clients.