Some of this post may be a little daunting for some people to read i am sorry.
We read all these magazines and books and more than often we think this will never happen to me or to anyone i know how wrong can you really be and as they say never say never things can happen to anyone.
Someone may well be perfectly healthy or at least look great but do we know what is really going on, one healthy moment may not last forever so look after what you have but also look around keeping in contact with the friends we have as no one can be brought back when they are gone.
Don’t cry over spilled milk is another saying where you make a mistake and it may be the closure of whatever you wish not to happen.
Waking in the morning we all wish for a great day and peace no bills no hassles and a straight path into our days or weeks but this does not always happen we all our own worst enemies and we have to work with how we deal with things.
The small things in life are so very important talking is the best form of medicine to help people as they will almost always start to talk to the person who is there.
Many families are extended by the parents re-grouping into another relationship adding maybe another group with also children, This is a common thing in this day and age.
We read so much about the extended family more children and maybe and extra parent these are the most common things that happen to a lot of families in this day and age.
Things have changed with the purpose of life also changing greatly some aspects of life families are supposed to support each other but sometimes they grow apart or there are many other reasons why families break up.
So there are many reasons why families part or fall apart here are just a few
Top one probably affairs
Death in family
Someone has moved
Abuse in the household can mean many things
Although physical abuse can mean many other forms of abuse it really means hitting with
These are just a few of the forms that can go on and most of them behind closed doors nobody knows as an abused person will generally hide what has happened and this may only come to life after many years or the person that was causing the abuse.
Many survivors are just that survivors because they learn to become strong and they more than often think no one will believe what has happened or happening because they have been threatened by the abuser the most common threat is that you will split the family up if you tell anyone and they probably won’t believe you anyway and just say you are making it up.
The abuse from a family member is bad enough but when it becomes sexual abuse by someone who you know and trust more than enough abusers actually get away with abuse and claim that they have done nothing wrong.
There are so many stories that would make you burn with anger where a father or step parent actually is the abuser and it so cruel they will force the child not to say anything and if they do say something the abuser can just deny anything has been done.
It is really hard to prove that anything has happened to anyone unless for the fear the survivor has moved away from the family home and then it can be a case where they will talk to someone without hesitation.
Mental abuse also comes in with the sexual and physical abuse it is a very cruel thing to put anyone through and worse when the survivor can’t open up about anything because of the threats that have been given there is such a nasty thing about any of these types of abuse and that is that the abusers are usually victims themselves at sometime n their lives so they see themselves they actually don’t know any different but to hurt people that they think is loving so this has a role on effect as well.
There are many different forms of pain and heartache that we go through in life.
As in an earlier paragraph, there are many different forms of abuse but think about it there are the worst ones such as child abuse and how the hell do the young babies get over what they have gone through, how can a young child tell the parent or parents that someone is doing these bad things to them or even worse the poor children that lose their lives because of the abuser has chosen to end it before it has begun.
Many of the survivors never tell because the person who is committing the crime against them is there and the survivor would be scared, sometimes they will say something if they are at school age and understand what has happened to them is bad and should not happen also that they need the help as well.
There are many stories that never get heard so really people need to start talking and telling their stories you don’t need to leave names but you can talk with no hassles i am a qualified counselor and will help with things that are requested.
There are so many people that are not aware of the pain that goes on when they are not in the house or when they are sleeping it is a very sad life we actually live right now.
We are a universe that has shutters over our eyes and we don’t see what is in front of us because of fear the next piece i am talking about is elderly abuse and how we neglect even our own family but not just that it is about elderly care in the home in nursing homes and in residential homes or in assisted living.
Working in care i have seen a lot of problems listing some below
Untrained carers or not trained enough
Abuse is not just being hit it is not being assisted with personal care, not giving the food to the client, checking pressure areas for sores and tissue tears it is a commitment in care and this is a job you either have the heart to do it or you should not be working in care.
Don’t think that care is easy it is not it is a very heartfelt and hard job you have to be willing to help people of all color race and religion be prepared for unusual things happening and for the elderly to want to talk be polite and caring indulge them make them feel loved don’t ignore what you should be doing always ask questions if you are not sure in whatever area of care you work in.
You have to want to work in care because it is a very tough job too many, people go into care thinking it is easy and then they think because of that they also think that its easy money it is not you work for your money but you also need to learn respect for the people who you care for.
Abuse comes in many forms and it is hard enough in life we can speak out but fear holds us back i want to help try and talk about the things that you have been through it doesn’t matter what sort of abuse or why you can leave me a message and i will get back to you.